I know I haven’t posted a “My Thoughts On…” post for a while, but you probably came for fashion advice, not philosophical life advice right? Well, I have a lot on my mind lately, and I kind of want to give you guys advice on how not to screw up your life… I will try to be as general as possible on this post, but I might deviate from the main point one time or another… Most of this advice is from my first-hand experiences in life, so it is just my personal opinions. Of course, you don’t have to listen to me.
If you really don’t want to listen to my stupid life story and my advice, just skip this post, and I promise I will post something relevant to fashion soon 🙂
1. Make close friends.
Close friends as in people who you can talk to about anything; love, family problems, friend problems, etc. I was a violent, anti-social child in elementary school, and in middle school, I didn’t make any long-lasting relations with anyone either. Whoops, I am already deviating from the main point; life’s challenges and blah blah. Okay, so the point is that one way to relieve stress is to tell these close friends what you feel, because if you keep all your emotions inside like I do, you will explode one day. Trust me.
2. Write everything down.
What I have started doing recently is typing up what I feel, because I am way too lazy to write it by hand. If you decide to print out what you have, make sure it does NOT get in the hands of anyone that you don’t want it to. That will end up in disaster, and I know first hand (oops). This method helps me feel relieved temporarily because my emotions don’t have to stay welled up inside of me 24/7.
3. Listen to music.
Please try not to listen to sad music. Honestly, I do this too much out of habit, and it just makes me feel way worse. Listen to upbeat songs such as “Happy” by Pharrell Williams or “Sing” by Ed Sheeran. One of the worst things you can do is listen to music that is related to the thing you are feeling depressed about.
4. Don’t change for anyone.
Even though a million people have said this, I will say it again. But what I mean when I say this is that you should not only not change your appearance for others, but also your schedule, the way you do things, etc. For example, if you found a new friend that you really like, you shouldn’t ditch your other friends for him/her. Do not ignore what you already have. I am not very good at describing this point…so I think I will just go on.
5. Don’t let this challenge affect others.
Have you heard the saying, “happiness is contagious”? Well it’s the same thing with depression or anger. If you are feeling depressed about something, you shouldn’t let it show to your friends or family, because you will just be bringing the sadness to them. I have this strange habit when I am depressed, I usually write motivating things on my instagram/twitter/facebook/etc. I think it’s because I really don’t want anyone to feel the sadness I am going through. Everyone deserves to be happy, and I shouldn’t be the one bringing them down.
6. Remember you are worth it.
See, I just pulled a number 5. But it’s true, you have to remember that no matter what other people say or do, you are still amazing, beautiful, and definitely worth it. You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to be loved, so you have to understand and accept that. This is probably the hardest step of getting over life’s challenges, but I promise you it is worth it when it happens. Someone will be always be looking out for you, but it is your job to keep your head up, smile, love life, stay positive, and live.
7. Expel your negative emotions.
I think this ties back to number 1 and 2. I think that it is completely necessary to let go of your emotions, but you may think otherwise. I am completely fine with that, because telling people how you feel may raise controversies. I just think that if I keep all these feelings inside of me, one day I won’t be able to take it anymore, and I will just break down. Another method instead of speaking your heart is physical activities. Tiring yourself out by going on a run or doing some exercise will take your mind off of your feelings.
8. Learn from these challenges.
Last of all, I want you all to learn from these life experiences. There will be hard times in everybody’s lives, so you have to remember that you are not alone. Encountering these hard times are inevitable, but the way you get through them is what matters. Learn from mistakes, and harness what you learned to benefit yourself and others in the future.
That’s all I can get from my confused brain into a coherent post. On a happier note, I am going to be active again on my instagram for this blog. So follow me @socalspiritblog. I am on instagram pretty much all the time, so I hope I will be able to interact more with you guys if I am active.
Okay, so I hope that this post will really help you in the future, and I am sorry for any grammar and spelling mistakes. I have been really lax about it on this blog. Love you guys! ❤