Wait what is this page? Well, I made this blog not only to post about fashion and what not, but also to post about my thoughts on life and society. I think it’s important to understand what is happening around us to become more mature and well-rounded individuals. This is the thoughts that I get about the “stereotypes” and norms of teens around me. I hope it helps you guys become more informed ❤
New thoughts posted every few days/every week or so. The older thoughts are at the bottom. If there are too many posts, the older ones at the bottom will turn into links to individual posts.
After I post these thoughts on the Home Page, I will put them on here so you guys can look at the older ones without having to scroll through the whole home page to find them.
My Thoughts On Getting Through Life’s Challenges
Well, I have a lot on my mind lately, and I kind of want to give you guys advice on how not to screw up your life… I will try to be as general as possible on this post, but I might deviate from the main point one time or another… Most of this advice is from my first-hand experiences in life, so it is just my personal opinions. Of course, you don’t have to listen to me.
If you really don’t want to listen to my stupid life story and my advice, just skip this post, and I promise I will post something relevant to fashion soon 🙂
1. Make close friends.
Close friends as in people who you can talk to about anything; love, family problems, friend problems, etc. I was a violent, anti-social child in elementary school, and in middle school, I didn’t make any long-lasting relations with anyone either. Whoops, I am already deviating from the main point; life’s challenges and blah blah. Okay, so the point is that one way to relieve stress is to tell these close friends what you feel, because if you keep all your emotions inside like I do, you will explode one day. Trust me.
2. Write everything down.
What I have started doing recently is typing up what I feel, because I am way too lazy to write it by hand. If you decide to print out what you have, make sure it does NOT get in the hands of anyone that you don’t want it to. That will end up in disaster, and I know first hand (oops). This method helps me feel relieved temporarily because my emotions don’t have to stay welled up inside of me 24/7.
3. Listen to music.
Please try not to listen to sad music. Honestly, I do this too much out of habit, and it just makes me feel way worse. Listen to upbeat songs such as “Happy” by Pharrell Williams or “Sing” by Ed Sheeran. One of the worst things you can do is listen to music that is related to the thing you are feeling depressed about.
4. Don’t change for anyone.
Even though a million people have said this, I will say it again. But what I mean when I say this is that you should not only not change your appearance for others, but also your schedule, the way you do things, etc. For example, if you found a new friend that you really like, you shouldn’t ditch your other friends for him/her. Do not ignore what you already have. I am not very good at describing this point…so I think I will just go on.
5. Don’t let this challenge affect others.
Have you heard the saying, “happiness is contagious”? Well it’s the same thing with depression or anger. If you are feeling depressed about something, you shouldn’t let it show to your friends or family, because you will just be bringing the sadness to them. I have this strange habit when I am depressed, I usually write motivating things on my instagram/twitter/facebook/etc. I think it’s because I really don’t want anyone to feel the sadness I am going through. Everyone deserves to be happy, and I shouldn’t be the one bringing them down.
6. Remember you are worth it.
See, I just pulled a number 5. But it’s true, you have to remember that no matter what other people say or do, you are still amazing, beautiful, and definitely worth it. You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to be loved, so you have to understand and accept that. This is probably the hardest step of getting over life’s challenges, but I promise you it is worth it when it happens. Someone will be always be looking out for you, but it is your job to keep your head up, smile, love life, stay positive, and live.
7. Expel your negative emotions.
I think this ties back to number 1 and 2. I think that it is completely necessary to let go of your emotions, but you may think otherwise. I am completely fine with that, because telling people how you feel may raise controversies. I just think that if I keep all these feelings inside of me, one day I won’t be able to take it anymore, and I will just break down. Another method instead of speaking your heart is physical activities. Tiring yourself out by going on a run or doing some exercise will take your mind off of your feelings.
8. Learn from these challenges.
Last of all, I want you all to learn from these life experiences. There will be hard times in everybody’s lives, so you have to remember that you are not alone. Encountering these hard times are inevitable, but the way you get through them is what matters. Learn from mistakes, and harness what you learned to benefit yourself and others in the future.
My Thoughts On Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is something that like seriously affects everyone. You might be like “hah, no.” but you have to admit, it even has affected YOU. Sometimes peer pressure is okay, like when you are jogging a marathon and your teammates encourage you to keep going, but it usually doesn’t impose a positive effect on you. The reason I bring up this subject is because sometimes it just gets ridiculous. And I mean SERIOUSLY ridiculous. It especially has affected me.
Have you ever had your teachers or some guest speaker talk about never giving in when your peers ask you to try this drug or smoke one cigarette or drink a beer? You might have thought, “I’m not stupid enough to do that stuff!” In my opinion, that is on a seriously high scale of peer pressure. There is also simple small-scale peer pressure like wearing different clothes or dyeing your hair or even writing in a different style. Okay so one thing that really affected me is wearing like the super expensive brand name clothing, especially Lululemon. Ice skating is not a cheap sport you know, so only a bit richer people can do this sport professionally. Let me just say it probably wasn’t a good idea to be so involved in ice skating, because my family had to cut down in many things because it’s so expensive. Anyway, my synchronized skating team has a lot of rich people, and of course my sister and I are not a part of the rich posse. I’m not trying to make them sound like snotty rich people; they are really nice, but they have A LOT of Lululemon clothing. From headbands to jackets to sports bras, they got the whole package. I try fitting in to my team, so I spent A LOT of money just on a few things from Lululemon. I don’t regret it, but giving in to peer pressure wasn’t the right thing to do. I should’ve just accepted my rank in society and moved on. Another thing that really persuaded me to change was of course looking prettier. Everyone changes as they get older, and I feel like I have to start looking prettier, too. All these girls at school are looking beautiful and I’m just like “…I need to catch up with them….”. I straighten my hair like 5 times a week (seriously don’t do that, it’s SERIOUSLY bad for your hair), and a lot of the time I wear some makeup. Not only do I want other people to think I am not UGLY, I also want to feel better about myself. This type of peer pressure may boost confidence, but may also change the person you really are.
Since I don’t really know what else to say…be yourself! Think for yourself! Have imagination! Just because other people do things and follow some stereotypes in society, doesn’t mean you should too!
My Thoughts On Self Confidence
So why am I talking about self-confidence? Well this is a blog about looking good. And having beautiful hair and perfect clothes and makeup to enhance your appearance. I am in NO WAY trying to demoralize my blog, of course not! But what I am saying is that behind all this frill and cover up, you have to accept yourself for who you are. I’ve always thought that I wasn’t good enough, and looking at pictures of PERFECT people really didn’t help either. The fact that I don’t have naturally straight and perfect hair, or that I really can’t afford the best clothes, or that I am not really pretty makes me want to be a different person. Now you might be thinking, “Yea, YOU have no self confidence,” but it’s really the fact that I accept myself as a person who ISN’T the best. My grades kind of suck (for an Asian ;D), I have like NO talent (except in art…kind of), and I’m not really pretty (even in Asian standards). But I try to make the best of what I do have. I don’t want to be insecure, cause I don’t know what for! (lol 1D). Seriously though. What’s the point of living life not loving yourself? I do try to make the best of life by following my dreams and having fun, so that’s why I made this blog! You can’t change the person you really are, so why can’t you just accept yourself for who you are? Of course you can experiment on yourself with makeup and new styles of clothing and what not, but you’ll always be the person you really are on the inside and out.
I am not only going to talk about lacking self-confidence, but also about having too much as well. To be honest, I sometimes think of myself too highly and may be narcissistic in terms of how I look. I used to always think of myself as super pretty. But once I realized I’m not SUPER pretty, I could stop trying to be, and I could accept myself for who I really am. A lot of the time, I would walk around with a lot of confidence thinking that people are looking at me because I’m pretty, but I was seriously WAY too narcissistic back then. Of course it’s good to walk with your head held up high, but not too high, because you have to remember you aren’t the center of the world. You are YOU. Of course I would say that I’m beautiful, because everyone is beautiful! It wasn’t even that I thought I was beautiful, it was that I thought I was pretty. Like as in hot-pretty. Now that I type this, I even feel super narcissistic. Okay the point is, even though you should have self-confidence, you shouldn’t be like SUPER narcissistic like I used to be. It just hurts yourself. My sister (who is super cynical) by the way always made fun of me because I was SO narcissistic, and I feel some of my friends did, too(probably my sister’s influence). Of course this hurt MY self-confidence, so it was best to stop thinking of myself as a king, and to start thinking of myself as the person I am.
I guess there is a just a limit between being insecure and narcissistic…I don’t know. These are just some of my thoughts. It’s kind of contradictory I guess….
I’m guessing you don’t want to read any of my weird thoughts anymore on self confidence, so… THE END.